Self Care for New Bloggers

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Starting a new blog can be rough.

Most articles and blogs focusing on helping people start a blog only focus on the practicalities, which hosts and domains and plugins and schedules to get, without going into more detail about the absolute life take over starting a blog is.

Without sounding too harsh a lot of posts about starting a blog are only about getting the affiliate payment when you sign up through their links (see- most people who recommend Bluehost), they don't really care what you do after. Not all, there are many wonderful blogger and websites whose are genuine. But many are less so.

And even the genuine ones can become overwhelming as you try to implement ALL their advice, right now.

There are lots of wonderful reasons to start a blog and it’s easy to get caught up in the hype and quickly burn out.

Blogging is A LOT of work in the beginning. Lots of late nights fiddling with technical things you don’t really understand, feeling overwhelmed and confused. Trying to follow about a hundred different strategies on how to best increase traffic, set up Pinterest, Facebook, twitter, and then link all your accounts. Become whizz at social media. Keywords. Niches. Affiliates. Sales funnels. Statistic. Analytics. Email lists. Schedulers….

And then getting next to no traffic in the beginning.

And no money.

Psychologically speaking it becomes extremely difficult to continue to motivate yourself when you are receiving no reward. The longer and harder you work for nothing the more likely you are to quit.

Most new bloggers quit before six months.

They get pulled into the hype about earning six figures by doing five hours of work a week when the reality is working in every spare moment for zero dollars.

I burnt out about a week into this blog. I became despondent and overwhelmed. I lost myself in the panic of building my audience and fretting about what content people wanted.

I felt inadequate compared to other bloggers who have fancy landing pages and email sequences and I was desperately trying to catch up. Which is pretty much asking for failure, try to catch up to a couple of years worth of work in two weeks…

I needed to step back from blogging for a bit but I couldn’t because I had so much to do. So I kept pushing on until I nearly quit.

Coming to the point of quitting made me pull back, reevaluate why I was doing this and how to continue in a sustainable way. I developed this list based on what I did to help avoid the overwhelm for any fellow new bloggers.


Don’t check any of your social media accounts for a day.

Put things in perspective. One day isn’t going to set you back too much. Don’t check your analytics as well. I know it’s addictive. Sooooo addictive as a new blogger but it brings a whole mess of feelings so try to have one day where you don’t have that in your mind.

   Photo by  Nik MacMillan
Photo by Nik MacMillan

Do something you enjoy that you’ve been neglecting

Draw, sing, run, go out dancing, cook. If your blog is based on something like this then do it for the sake of enjoyment and don’t *GASP* take photos or write about it.

If you’re blogging about your passion and it involves craft, or cooking or something, then at all cost avoid losing your passion for it.

Take regular time to just reconnect with your love of it.

Spend time with friends and family

You’ve probably been neglecting some people in your life as blogging has taken over your brain. Spend the afternoon with people you care about and reconnect.

You’ll probably be distracted for a while still, so taking regular times to reconnect can be super important.

Read a book with your kids, catch up with friends for coffee, go out for a night with your partner. Look at a real-life person in the face. Your eyes might be confused by the extra dimension they forgot existed but it’ll pass.

Do some yoga

Or some sort of stretching. You’ve been hunched over a computer for a long time now.

Get up, release cramped muscles and relax your body. Check out this video here, or here for my fav yoga teacher on Youtube. She is absolutely incredible and I love her.

Moving your body will help ideas flow and focusing on your breath will help calm your mind and give you a much-needed break from traffic stats.

On that note

Run

Or do cardio. Get the heart pumping. Sitting stationary isn’t good for your body or your mind. Blast the music and move.

I promise you’ll write better when you sit back down. It’s science.

   Photo by  Hans Vivek
Photo by Hans Vivek

Mediate in the evening

I kept having the strangest dreams when I went to bed. I’d inhabit this half awake half asleep state where my brain was frantically figuring our blog stuff.

You know when you’ve been doing something too much and that’s all you can see when you close your eyes? Yeah, happened to me with blogging things.

It was exhausting because it took ages to actually settle down enough to sleep. 

Meditation helped so much with this. One Giant Mind is the best meditation app I have used (and I’ve tried out a lot) It’s free as well. Properly free, no sneaky up-sells or limited free trials.

(Once when I was younger I spent all month watching Gilmore Girls and playing Plants vs Zombies. Then when I closed my eyes I’d just see rows of Lorelai's head on the sunflowers, bobbing away) 

Set time limits to working on your blog

Make a bit of a schedule around working. Keep your sanity in check. Only work for two hours at a time. Or take breaks every thirty minutes. Maybe set time limits when you won’t work on it. After ten in the evening. Before eight first thing. During lunchtime.

Figure out what works for you. Remembe starting a blog is a marathon, not a sprint. And working at it all day and night is the fastest way to burn out. Go to bed before 12!!!

   Photo by  João Silas
Photo by João Silas

Read some fiction

How many articles, ebooks and courses have you read about blogging now.

I literally have no idea but if someone told me it was thousands I would believe them.

I have been consuming so much writing on blogging I forgot reading for joy.

Read a book, a short story, a poem. Anything. Just nothing about improving your web traffic.

Put together a self care box

Sometimes it's nice to have a physical reminder of the need to rest and recharge. Having a group of things together in one space can make it easier to get started because you don’t have to think about it. All the thinking has been done in advance.

Put in things that make you happy, art supplies, pampering things, a journal, nail polish, a nice mug and fancy tea. Anything you'd enjoy. Pinterest has a million ideas and I’m going to write a blog post on how to put one together. Watch this space.

If you want the finished product without the work then:

 Therabox from Cratejoy

Therabox from Cratejoy

Treat yo self!

The Therabox is an incredible self care tool. It includes physical products (all the nice stuff) combined with mental self care, exercises created and chosen by practicing therapists.

Getting a physical box in the mail makes doing nice things a guarantee because it’s exciting and all there waiting for you.

You don't have to think about what you want to do because it's there, ready and waiting. You can sign up at Cratejoy (just be careful you don't get lost in their amazing range of boxes! So so many, I want all the Harry Potter ones)


Are you a new blogger struggling with burnout? What are your favorite ways to practice self care? I've begun to realize just how crucial it is to incorporate into my life and business. Let me know in the comments what you do or what you struggle with. Or send me an email. I love hearing from you

xx

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